DIRECTIONS:  Print off the Profile below.  Answer the questions and bring to class.

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O O     1. I believe that "love at first sight" is possible. .

O O     2. I did not realize that I was in love until I actually
            hadbeen for some time.

O O     3. When things aren't going right with us, my stomach
            gets upset.

O O     4. From a practical point of view, I must consider what a
            person is going to become in life before I commit myself
            to loving him/her.

O O     5. You cannot have love unless you have first had caring
            for a while.

O O     6. It's always a good idea to keep your lover a little
            uncertain about how committed you are to him/her.

O O     7. The first time we kissed or rubbed cheeks, 1 felt a
            definite genital response (lubrication, erection).

O O     8. I still have good friendships with almost everyone
               withwhom I have ever been involved in a love
            relationship.

O O     9. It makes good sense to plan your life carefully before
            you choose a lover.

O O     10. When my love affairs break up, I get so depressed
            that I have even thought of suicide.

O O     11. Sometimes I get so exated about being in love that I
            can't sleep.

O O     12. I try to use my own strength to help my lover
            through difficult times, even when he/she is behaving
            foolishly.

O O     13. I would rather suffer myself than let my lover suffer.

O O     14. Part of the fun of being in love is testing one's skill
            at keeping It going and getting what one wants from
            it at the same time.

O O     I5. As far as my lovers go, what they don't know
            won't hurt them.

O O     16. It is best to love someone with a similar background.

O O     17. We kissed each other soon after we met because
            we both wanted to.

O O     18. When my lover doesn't pay attention to me, I feel
            sick all over.

O O     19. I cannot be happy unless l place my lover's happiness
            before my own.

O O     20. Usually the first thing that attracts my attention to a
            person is his/her pleating physical appearance.

O O     21. The best kind of love grows out of a long friendship.

O O     22. When I am in love, I have trouble concentrating
            on anything else.

O O     23. At the first touch of his/her hand, I knew that love
            was a real possibility.

O O     24. When l break up with someone, I go out of my way
            to see that he/she Is O.K.

O O     25. I cannot relax if I suspect that he/she is with
            someone else.

O O     26. I have it least once had to plan carefully to keep two
            of my lovers from finding out about each other.

O O     27. I can get over love affairs pretty easily and quickly.

O O     28. A main consideration in choosing a lover is how
            he/she reflects on my family.

O O     29. The best part of love is living together, building
            a home together, and rearing children together.

O O     30. 1 am usually willing to sacrifice my own wishes
              to let my lover achieve his/hers.

O O     31. A main consideration in choosing a partner is
            whether or not he/she will be a good parent.

O O     32. Kissing, cuddling, and sex shouldn't be rushed into;
            they will happen naturally when one's intimacy has
            grown enough.

O O     33. 1 enjoy flirting with attractive people.

O O     35. Before I ever fell in love, I had a pretty clear
            physical picture of what my true love would be like.

O O     36. If my lover had a baby by someone else, I would
            want to raise it, love it, and care for it as if It were
            my own.

O O    37. It is hard to say exactly when we fell in love.

O O     38. I couldn't truly love anyone I would not be
            willing to marry.

O O     39. Even though I don't want to be jealous, I can't help
            it when he/she pays, attention to someone else.

O O     40. I womb rather break up with my lover than to stand
            in his/her way.

O O     41. I like the idea of my lover and myself having the
              same kinds of clothes, hats, plants, bicycles, cars, etc.

O O     42. I wouldn't date anyone that I wouldn't want to fall
            in love with.

O O     43. At least once when I thought a love affair was all
            over, I saw him/her again and knew I couldn't
            realistically see that person again without loving
            him/her.

O O     44. Whatever I own is my lover's to use as he/she
           chooses.

O O     45. If my lover ignores me for a while, I sometimes do
            really stupid things to try to get his/her attention back.

O O     46. It's fun to see whether I can get someone to go out
            with me even ifI don't want to get involved with that
               person.

O O     47. A main consideration in choosing a mate is how
            he/she will reflect on my career.

O O     48. When my lover doesn't see me or call for a while,
            I assume he/she has a good reason.

O O     49. Before getting very involved with anyone I try to
            figure out how compatible his/her hereditary
            background is with mine in case we ever have children. .

O O     50. The best love relationships are the ones that last
            the longest.

Directions: Circle the item number of true T (true) responses on the scales to the right.
    Write the number of true responses per column in the space provided.
 

S     A     M     P     L     E
 2     12     3     4     6      1
 5     13     10    9    14     7
 8     19     11   16    15    17
 21    24    18    28    26    20
 29    30     22   31    27    23
 32    36     25    38    33    35
 37    40     39 43

50    44     43    47    46
 48     45     49
 
  

Total circled true:   
 

Remember that these answers are in response to the current relationship you are in or your last previous relationship and therefore may vary from relationship to relationship. You also may choose answers that fall under more than once category.

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